There’s a question that my husband and I get pretty regularly when people see our family size. It typically comes in two forms.
“Do you think you’ll have any more?”
“So are you guys done now?”
As personal as the question is in reality, I can also understand why it’s asked. Five children is substantially more than the average family today.
It seems pretty typical in our society to have a boy and a girl, and then stop having children. Three might be considered a legitimate choice if the first two were the same gender.
But after three? It seems so puzzling to many that someone would want to have more than that.
However, our hearts are open for more than five children, and my husband and I feel strongly that the Lord wants us to have that openness for an increase to our family. Since I know this can be a misunderstood and, sadly, even ridiculed choice to make, I want to share from my heart on the topic through the rest of May.
A Bunch of Disclaimers First
Honest confession: as dear as this topic has become to my husband and me, and as much as I feel I should write about it, I am a little nervous. This is a rather personal issue.
As such, there are some things that need to be laid out before I can really share what I what’s on my heart.
I realize that the majority of Christians will see this issue differently from me. We can lovingly disagree without debating and still be friends.
I understand that there are times when couples need to stop having children because of serious health conditions. Maybe another pregnancy would be life-threatening to the mother. There is always grace for those hard situations, and wisdom is needed to make the best possible choice.
I know, also, that one spouse may want more children, but the other refuses. That could potentially be a heartbreaking situation.
Then there’s the pain of infertility, even when the heart desires children. I don’t have any answers, and I can only imagine the hurt and frustration that could go along with that.
These posts will be shared from a heart that wasn’t always open to allowing God to have control over our family size. But the Lord’s slowly opened my heart for a large family, and I want to share some of that journey with you.
I hope you’ll stay tuned and read along through the next few weeks!
And, in case this made you crazily curious, no, we are not expecting right now!