I brought up the hypothetical question of a Homemaker Evaluation Day in the last post. Perhaps it got you thinking.
What if someone were to evaluate you as a homemaker once a year?
We can all sigh with relief knowing that no one will be coming into our homes with a clipboard, checklist, and notepad.
But just because no outside observer will ever rate our homemaking, marriage, and mothering skills doesn’t mean that we can’t evaluate ourselves. In fact, I think that taking a step back and comparing our homes with some solid, godly standards can go a long way in helping us improve as homemakers.
Finding the Right Balance
As women, I think we can easily slip into an unhealthy comparison mindset when we set out to evaluate ourselves in anything. Our appearance, home decor, the behavior of our children, or our ability to balance it all can seem extremely faulty when we look towards unrealistic ideals.
On the flip side, it’s also possible to simply resign ourselves to minimal effort when we’re home all day. I think this is less common, but if we get tired or discouraged, it can certainly happen.
We have to strive to find a balance between complacency (Eh, why bother cleaning? They just make a mess five minutes later anyway!) and condemnation (I can never keep this house clean. I just keep failing. I’m a horrible homemaker!)
Considering Our Standards
Before any of us can begin to consider how we measure up as homemakers, we first have to consider what standard we are using as a measurement.
When we follow blogs on Facebook, or read them frequently, or flip through Pinterest, or study various home and parenting magazines, we see small segments of real life. Even here, where I share some of my failures, you never get the whole picture.
Obviously, every family has unique needs. And because of that, we need to keep that in mind when evaluating how well we are doing in our homes.
The beauty of homemaking and family life is that we are able to create a safe haven and an atmosphere of belonging for our family, not everyone else’s.
One standard we can always turn to anytime we are searching ourselves and our lives is the Bible. While the specific ways we apply some Scriptures may differ from home to home, we can all pray and seek direction from the Lord.
Seeking Input from the Right Sources
If we want to really improve as homemakers, I think there are three sources that can provide us with solid input regarding how we are measuring up.
- Our children can share vital insight without even realizing it. Listen to and watch for the feedback they provide in daily life. Do they have a consistent complaint? Do they often wish for something? Are they acting out for attention? These can all give us clues on areas where we can improve in our homes.
- An experienced and trusted Titus 2 woman can share from her wisdom. Godly women who have been in the trenches and learned through it can offer support, ideas, encouragement, and guidance. You may be blessed to have someone in your family or local church who is very familiar with your family and able to share helpful insight.
- Our husbands should be our primary consideration. Give him the opportunity to share what really matters to him in your home. You might find that you don’t need to stress about dust-free book shelves when he really loves to see vacuumed floors, or that he’d prefer simple meals if it means that you can work in the yard together.
Measuring up as a homemaker doesn’t have to be an unattainable dream hanging above our heads. It can be a practical, doable goal with lots of baby steps, grace, and wiggle room along the way.
As you seek to grow as a homemaker, don’t forget to check out my ebook, Strengthening the Heart of a Homemaker: A Devotional Guide for Your Homemaking Journey. It’s filled with printable scripture cards, journal pages, and devotional guides to help you grow in your role as a homemaker!