As I wrote yesterday’s post and read through some of the comments that came in, something clicked, and I recognized another way that I can keep this stage of my life in perspective.
I was sharing how the perfect days that I have in my mind really aren’t possible as the mom of young children. I can’t have a Pinterest-perfect home and garden and sew and homeschool and regularly dust and have one-on-one time with my children daily and morning devotional times and regular daily exercise and…
Well, you get the point.
It’s hard to keep things in perspective when there’s so much that I feel like I’m not getting done.
But as I was responding to a comment yesterday, I realized that much of what I desire as a mom comes down to the memories that I want to create with my children.
When they are grown, and their little years have been spent, what do I want them to look back and remember?
When They Remember Their Childhood
When my children are no longer children, and they recall their younger years to others, I know there are things they won’t remember. That won’t matter. That will be forgotten.
The days that we got behind on the laundry.
The ways our home seemed hopelessly out of date and in need of repairs.
The fact that they were never thrown a themed birthday party.
The lack of beautiful scrapbooks.
The rust on our van.
My cluttered desk.
Their cluttered rooms.
But dear God, my deepest heart’s desire is that these children look back on a childhood and see it filled with joy and peace and happy memories.
Parents that hug and kiss and make them say “Ew!”
Giggles and shrieks of “Chase me, Daddy!”
Toads caught all the warm days until they burrowed into the soil again.
Read aloud adventures in Narnia, Mirkwood, the wide prairies, and the hundred acre wood.
Cuddles on the couch.
Evening prayers and morning memory verses.
Patient instruction and correction.
A fallible mother who would ask for forgiveness.
Never ending, unchanging, unconditional love.
If my children can remember their childhood days and think on these things, I can only imagine the joy that will fill my heart.
And today I pray with the deepest sincerity that the Lord will help me to do my part in making that happen.
What memories do you want your children to have? Do you struggle to keep your heart set on the bigger picture in parenting?
This post is part of the 31-Day series, An Extended Stay, where I invite you into my heart and into my home through the whole month of October.
You can read more 31-Day series by other bloggers in the Family section of the challenge’s website linked up here.