When we think about what it means to have a large family, we often think about the work. The noise. The mess. The effort. The challenges.
But having a big bunch of little ones is more than just work.
There are tremendous and many benefits of having a large family!
Of course having a large family isn’t always easy. I’m not afraid to admit that, and I don’t know of any other mom who would say raising children takes little effort.
Similarly, having a family of any size brings blessings. Children are always blessings!
There are some unique blessings, though, to having a larger family. When there are more children, certainly there is extra work required, but the benefits! There are just so many, and they deserve to be highlighted.
Large Family Benefits
When I think of the benefits of having a large family, my mind turns to many things. I have a list of fifteen to get you thinking, and I hope you have many more to share with me!
1. My children are blessed with many playmates. If someone wants to read, someone else might be willing to go swing outside. There is always someone to experience fun with!
2. Many hands can equal light labor. Of course, when those hands are little, the labor feels a little heavy for the parents. But now that our older children are able to do more work, I find that I spend less time on certain jobs, and some I don’t even do anymore! We may have more work to do, but there are more hands to do it.
3. The giggles of young childhood fill our home consistently. As our older children have left the silly toddler and preschool years, a baby has grown to fill that place. I simply love the silly humor and ringing laughter that these little ones bring to our home!
4. It’s hard to be lonely in our home. Sure, at times personal space is hard to come by. But there’s always someone there to be a buddy or join in on an activity. We never have to feel lonely in our home.
5. My husband and I can model the value of life and children. We want our children to grow up into adults who see children as blessings, and not burdens. What better way to do that than open our hearts to a large family?
6. I have homeschooling help as my older children can help teach the younger ones. Right now, my older children can’t be in charge of teaching the younger ones, but they can do so much in helping them learn to read, write, and spell. And they make fantastic read aloud buddies.
7. When I think longterm, I see the potential for a host of grandchildren! That also means that our grandchildren will have many cousins to love, grow up with, and play with.
8. Along with that, my grandchildren will be blessed with many aunts and uncles on our side of the family. With so many cousins, aunts, and uncles, my sincere hope is that my grandchildren will find our large family to be a strong source of love and belonging.
And yes, it does feel a little strange to think of future grandchildren when my oldest is only 10!
9. Our home is filled with creativity, projects, and imagination. Sometimes the things my children come up with together make me giggle. Other times they really amaze me! They feed off of each other’s creativity, too, and I hope to see it continue to spread as our family grows.
10. I see so many sweet little and bigger smiles during the day. These children not only make me smile, they make each other smile, too! I love seeing their happy faces as they enjoy being together, being alone for a quiet moment, or spending time with me or their daddy.
11. I am learning to be less selfish because of my children. As the family grows, I am shouldered with the responsibility of raising a new soul with my husband. That means that my own wants and desires are often put on hold, but isn’t that what Christians are regularly called to do? I’m not called to run my life by what I want to do.
12. I am also learning to be more patient because of my children. I’ve said that I don’t feel like I’m particularly cut out to have a large family. I wasn’t born with an unusual amount of patience, but being a mother of many children continues to develop more patience in me.
13. My weaknesses are often brought out because of my large family, and that only benefits me. Of course I hate failing as a mom. Nothing in me rejoices to see that a certain area of my life is still a weak spot. But when it is pointed out, an important thing happens: I become more humble, patient, sensitive, and understanding.
14. There is always a friend available in our home, and not just for the children. The company of these sweet little people has often been just what I needed when I was feeling down or discouraged. They’ve been there for each other, and they’ve been there for me.
15. There is so much love in our house. When a new baby comes, it’s like a new source of love is brought in. The love isn’t stretched thinner; it truly grows! All of the cuddles are pretty nice for a momma, too.
Now it’s your turn. I can’t wait to read some of your favorite benefits of having a large family!