Natural Remedies for Miscarriage Recovery: How to Heal Your Heart & Body

If you’re looking for natural remedies for miscarriage recovery, let me first say that I’m so sorry. You’re likely reading this because you or someone you deeply love has experienced one of the most heart-wrenching losses a woman can experience: a miscarriage.

And you’re wondering what to do now. I’ve been there, too.

I’m not just sharing these things as an herbalist and aromatherapist with extensive training in women’s health. I’ve also had three miscarriages: an uncomplicated, early loss that resolved at home; a missed miscarriage at 9/10 weeks that left me waiting for 7 weeks before using medication to complete it; and loss at almost 10 weeks which required a lot of physical recovery time.

All of them were devastating. But by using healing herbs, nourishing foods, and other natural remedies for miscarriage recovery, I healed over time. And you can, too.

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The Most Important Things to Do for Natural Miscarriage Recovery

When you’re grieving, just getting through the basics of life can feel like a lot to manage. Though I’m sharing all sorts of healing herbs, foods, and other natural remedies for miscarriage recovery, you may look at these options and just feel overwhelmed. That’s okay.

If you can do nothing else while you heal from a miscarriage, focus on these three things.

Natural Remedies for Miscarriage Recovery

Acknowledge the Process

Miscarriage is hard work for your body, heart, and mind. It’s not just a difficult period that you bounce back from when the bleeding stops. In fact, my midwife once told me “A miscarriage is a birth. It just has a different outcome.”

How hard your body has to work to go through the miscarriage process can depend on a number of things, like how far along you were. If you had a very early miscarriage might have felt like a painful, difficult period.

If you were further along in your pregnancy or your body never recognized your baby passed, you might have needed medical assistance. Perhaps you needed medical help because of complications.

None of these situations gives you a happy ending. However your miscarriage resolved, you went through an emotionally devastating and physically demanding process that will take time to recover from. It’s important to acknowledge that and be gentle with yourself.

Give Yourself Time

You need time to heal on all levels. There is no rush.

Your body needs time to recover. You might feel extra tired and fatigued for a while. Your lower abdominal and pelvic muscles may feel sore or achy. It’s important to take it easy for a couple of weeks after a miscarriage and gradually work your way back into your old routine.

Your heart needs time, too. Though some people may not understand, it’s okay to not suddenly “get over” a miscarriage once the bleeding stops. Anytime you lose a loved one, it takes time for the raw grief to pass. That goes for unborn babies, too. Your heart will heal, but that doesn’t happen overnight.

If you need to be reminded of this, please read To The Heartbroken Woman Walking Through Miscarriage.

If You Can Only Do One Thing, It’s This

Many herbs, foods, and supplements can help you naturally heal after a miscarriage, but they won’t do much good without one crucial aspect of recovery.

Rest.

You’ll need to sleep, sit, and lie down more often. You may not have the strength to carry around older children, if you have any, for a few weeks.

Try to get help with meals, cleaning, and errands as you recover. If someone offers, don’t feel guilty for accepting the help. You need it.

Sometimes people don’t think to offer a meal or cleaning help, though. It might feel uncomfortable, but it’s okay to ask for help. If that feels too awkward, try asking a trusted friend or family member to do it for you. At the very least, give yourself permission to order out and lower your cleaning standards to the bare minimum.

You’re not being lazy by taking it easy. You’re being wise. Miscarriage takes a lot out of you, and the best way to get built back up is through rest.

Natural Remedies for Miscarriage Recovery

Your body needs time and space to physically heal after a miscarriage.

The cramping and contractions can take days. The blood loss can be significant. You may feel nauseous, have headaches, or struggle to sleep until the whole process is over. Miscarriage hurts the heart, and it is also hard on the body.

You’ll need to monitor your miscarriage closely. Many complete at home with no complications, but not all do. If you have a fever, severe blood loss, become faint, or have any other concerning symptoms, please seek medical attention immediately. You are worth it.

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Herbs for Miscarriage Recovery

Herbs can be an excellent natural home remedy after miscarriage. The best herbs for you will depend on your specific health history and current needs, but the following lists give you some ideas to start with. You can combine the herbs based on your recovery needs or just focus on one.

My favorite way to use herbs for miscarriage recovery is through herbal infusions. These are strong herbal teas that give your body both herbal benefits and needed hydration. However, I’ve included a note with any herbs that are best used as a tincture.

You can find these herbs, as well as high-quality tea blends and herbal extracts, from my friends at Mountain Rose Herbs. If you need help understanding which herbs for miscarriage recovery are right for you, I can help.

Nutrient-Rich Herbs

  • Red raspberry leaf (Rubus idaeus) tones and strengthens the uterus, so it can help your womb reach its pre-pregnancy state after a miscarriage. It’s also full of minerals. My homemade herbal pregnancy tea blend features raspberry leaf and is helpful for miscarriage recovery, too.
  • Alfalfa (Medicago sativa) was once known as the King of Herbs because of its nutritional benefits. It helps rebuild strength for anyone who feels weak.
  • Nettles (Urtica dioica) is so full of minerals that it almost tastes salty, making it a great herb for rebuilding. You can even add it to recipes in place of dried parsley. I love it in chicken soup!

Relaxing Nervine & Adaptogenic Herbs

  • Lemon balm (Melissa officinalis) helps calm anxiety and promotes relaxation. It was once known as the “gladdening herb” because of its emotional support. It’s an important herb in my Anti-Anxia-Tea herbal tea blend.
  • Chamomile (Matricaria recutita) calms nerves, soothes digestion, and promotes better sleep, so it’s an excellent herb to use when you’re grieving. It pairs well with lemon balm in tea.
  • Rose petals (Rosa ssp.) don’t taste very good on their own as a tea, but a few petals sprinkled into a tea blend really uplifts the heart. After one of my miscarriages, I found so much comfort in gathering rose petals from my garden. I’ve come to love the medicinal uses of rose.
  • Motherwort (Leonurus cardiaca) is rightly named since it’s a mother’s wort, or healing herb. As a bitter nervine it helps calm anxiety and emotional liability while also promoting hormonal balance. It’s best taken as a tincture because of its bitterness.
  • Ashwagandha (Withania somnifera) is a calming, nourishing adaptogen that helps your body respond to stress. It won’t provide you with immediate relief, but can help your body rebuild and rebalance itself over time. It has a strong, earthy flavor, so you may like it best as a tincture.
  • Tulsi (Ocimum tenuiflorum) is a delicious adaptogenic herb that makes a wonderful tea. I love it mixed with rose petals when I want to feel comforted.

Other Helpful Herbs

  • Vitex, or chaste berry (Vitex angust-castus), is often used to help balance a woman’s hormones. It may be a good herb for you if your hormones don’t seem to regulate after your miscarriage. Vitex is best taken as a tincture for at least 3 months.
  • Crampbark (Viburnum opulus) and black haw (Viburnum prunifolium) are similar antispasmodic herbs that work well for mild to moderate pelvic camping and discomfort. It’s most effective and convenient to take it as a tincture.
  • Maca (Lepidium meyenii) is a nourishing herb that balances hormones, rebuilds strength, and often promotes fertility. It also tastes very good, so you can add it to all sorts of food recipes and drinks, like hot cocoa. I highly recommend maca from The Maca Team.

Supplements Your Body May Need After Miscarriage

Even when you’re eating really well, you’ll likely benefit from a few key supplements that help fill in common nutritional gaps while you heal.

  • Prenatal vitamins aren’t just for when you’re pregnant. They provide important nutrients that promote overall wellness and can encourage your recovery. I personally take Baby & Me 2 from MegaFood, but you can take whatever prenatal you were taking before your miscarriage.
  • Magnesium is a crucial mineral that’s responsible for hundreds of bodily functions. When you’re low on magnesium, you can suffer from headaches, insomnia, constipation, muscle cramps, and more. Most people have some level of deficiency, and on top of that, high-stress situations can drain the body of magnesium. My family and I all take UltraMag from Pure Encapsulations.
  • Iron can become low after a miscarriage due to blood loss. Almost all prenatal vitamins have some iron in them, but if you have anemia concerns, you might regain your strength faster with a dedicated iron supplement. I recommend Floradix Iron & Herbs or Perfect Supplement’s Desiccated Liver Capsules since they are both whole food, highly absorbable iron supplements.

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Food for natural miscarriage recovery is covered below, so you know what to eat after a miscarriage.

How to Use Essential Oils After a Miscarriage

Many people use essential oils for stress relief, so you might find them helpful as you grieve. By reducing your stress levels, they can help you sleep better, reduce depression, ease muscle tension, and more.

While some people claim essential oils balance your hormone levels, herbs are much more effective. Essential oils may be able to indirectly support hormone levels through stress support, but you’ll get better and faster results with dietary and herbal approaches.

After one of my miscarriages, I kept a couple of my favorite essential oil roll-on blends in my purse. The comforting scents helped me feel grounded when I had to go out but wasn’t feeling like myself yet.

Creating your own roll-on blends is very simple, but you have to safely dilute your essential oils or you can hurt your skin. My printable resource The Essential Oils Quick Reference Guide helps you know how to do that.

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What to Eat After Miscarriage

After going through a miscarriage, your body needs to rebuild and refuel with nourishing foods. This may not be easy when you’re exhausted, grieving, and sore, but it can be done.

For the most part, the same whole foods that help you build a healthy baby, recover from a regular birth, or get well after a sickness will also help you naturally recover after a miscarriage.

  • Rebuild with protein at every meal and snack. Cheese, nut butter, and eggs are quick and easy to prepare. Meats, seafood, and poultry are obviously good protein choices. If you like liver and have a good source, this can be an excellent time to eat some for a boost of iron.
  • Whole fruits and veggies require little to no prep time but are nutritionally sound. Cooked leafy greens, like kale, broccoli, and collards are especially good choices, as well as dark orange vegetables like sweet potatoes.
  • Bone broth is a great place to turn when you need to rebuild. If you don’t have any in the freezer, anyone who can boil water can easily make some for you with a good soup bone, some veggie scraps, and a little time.
  • Include some fat with each meal to help your body gain strength and absorb all the nutrients from your food. Butter, olive oil, and coconut oil are examples of nourishing fats.
  • Watch out for empty carbs and stick with whole grain options like brown rice, whole wheat sourdough bread, and oats (you can even turn these into yummy dandelion petal cookies!)

Do your best to focus on nutrient-dense, simple, and unprocessed foods. Meals don’t have to be fancy or complicated to be healing.

Healing Your Heart After a Miscarriage

Just like you can’t force your body to heal faster after a miscarriage, you can’t rush the mending of your heart, either.

There’s no correct way to grieve or amount of time to grieve. You may only be slightly saddened and disappointed, or you may feel like your entire world just collapsed around you. You might also feel something in the middle.

Whatever your exact feelings, processing through them is vital for complete miscarriage recovery. When we don’t process our emotions, our physical health can suffer, too.

Ways to Remember Your Baby

Many women, couples, and families find it extremely healing to memorialize their baby somehow after a miscarriage. It can help bring you a sense of closure while also helping you hold on to your lost baby’s memory.

  • You can name your baby, even if you didn’t know the gender.
  • Some families hold a small funeral or memorial service for the baby. This can be done at a cemetery, complete with a grave marker, or held in a more private location.
  • Trees, shrubs, and perennial plants often make meaningful symbols of your baby’s life. You can choose one that blooms on the baby’s due date or has some other special meaning to you.
  • Writing a letter to your baby can be a powerful way to find healing and closure so you can move forward. Dads and siblings can do this, too.
  • A growing number of ministries, organizations, and small businesses offer small blankets, beautiful prints, and other precious tokens to remember your baby. If you’re not sure where to find something you like, try Etsy.
miscarriage remembrance bracelet for natural miscarriage recovery
My remembrance bracelet from Gracefully Wrapped on Etsy

After our miscarriages, my husband and I did a few of these things. We named our babies (Baby Hopeful passed in January 2011, Baby Selah in June 2022, and Baby Shalom in February 2023), wrote letters to them, and planted meaningful plants in their honor. I also had a remembrance bracelet made after our second loss as a way to hold both of their memories close on special days, like Mother’s Day and due dates.

Extra Emotional Support After Miscarriage

As you give yourself time and space to grieve your loss, you’ll probably want to seek out extra emotional support. This doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human, and humans are built for community.

Husbands can be hit hard by pregnancy loss, too, as well as any other children you may have. These extra supports can help everyone who is hurting from your baby’s passing.

  • Journaling offers you an opportunity to openly process your raw thoughts and feelings without worrying about how they sound to others.
  • Spending time in nature when the weather permits can be quite healing. Nature therapy is associated with all sorts of positive health effects. The photos in this article feature my own garden plants that brought me much peace after our second miscarriage.
  • Talking with fellow moms who have had a miscarriage can help you recognize that your feelings and grief are very normal. Their experience can also give you hope for the future. There might be a support group in your area, but if not, there are plenty of online forums and groups to try.
  • There is no shame in reaching out to a trusted midwife or OB/GYN, counselor, pastor, or other professional for more in-depth help. Sometimes you just need to talk with someone who is a little removed from your situation and can help you find a way forward.
  • Try to keep the lines of communication with your husband open so that you can process your grief together. You may not grieve in the same ways, but you can still support one another as your hearts heal.
  • If you have older children, ask them how they feel about the loss. They may not know how to bring up their feelings on their own.

Natural Miscarriage Recovery FAQs

What should I drink after a miscarriage to clean my womb?

Typically, your body will take care of cleaning out your uterus after a miscarriage without drinking or taking anything in particular. Just like our bodies usually know how to give birth, they usually know how to complete a miscarriage.

Sometimes things are more complicated, though. If you’re concerned there may be bits of placenta or other pregnancy tissues left in your womb, it’s important to see a medical provider since that can be a serious situation.

But if you’re not experiencing symptoms of an incomplete miscarriage (fever, pelvic pain, bad-smelling discharge, continued heavy bleeding, etc.), you can simply focus on nourishing foods, herbal teas, and rest as you recover.

Can I drink coffee after a miscarriage?

Yes, you can drink coffee after a miscarriage. Just be mindful of how much caffeine you take in so you don’t become dehydrated or disrupt your sleep patterns. One cup in the morning, if you’re accustomed to it, is perfectly acceptable.

And I get it. I love my morning coffee and look seriously forward to it when I go to bed at night!

However, if you’re feeling really run-down and depleted after a miscarriage, stick with decaf coffee or a yummy coffee substitute. Though you might crave that caffeine perk, your body needs rest and not a forced jolt of energy.

Do I need to detox after a miscarriage?

No, it’s highly unlikely you need to detox after a miscarriage. In fact, typical detoxes tend to be harsh on the body and can actually be harmful when your body needs to rebuild.

Instead, focus on the natural remedies for miscarriage recovery shared in this article. These things will be far more healing than any miscarriage detox plan.

I had a D & C after my miscarriage. Are there home remedies for D & C recovery?

After a D & C for a miscarriage, it’s important to follow your doctor’s post-surgical guidance. Along with eating well and resting, you can also drink red raspberry leaf tea to tone and support your uterus. Raspberry leaf tastes similar to black tea and nothing like raspberries (bummer!), so you can add other flavorful herbs, lemon, or a little honey if you don’t enjoy that taste

Should I drink a certain tea for miscarriage recovery?

Of all the natural remedies for miscarriage recovery, a nourishing herbal tea is probably my favorite. There’s no precise formula you need to follow, but you can start with a simple blend of

  • 3 parts red raspberry leaf
  • 1 part each alfalfa, nettle leaf, lemon balm, and chamomile.

The parts in this formula can be anything from tablespoons to cups. I like to use a 1/8 or 1/4 cup measuring cup for tea blending.

You can use 1 tablespoon of this blend per cup of freshly boiled water and steep it for at least 30 minutes. After straining, you can drink it warm or cold and with honey or lemon if you’d like. This blend gives you nutrients, tones the uterus, and provides some gentle nervous system support.

Are there herbs that can stop a miscarriage?

If a miscarriage is only threatened, meaning there’s mild cramping and/or bleeding but the baby still has a heartbeat, you may be able to prevent a loss. Your midwife or OB/GYN can advise you on the best steps to take during a threatened miscarriage. Herbs may be able to help, as well, but it’s important to work with a qualified herbalist in this situation.

If a miscarriage is confirmed, there are sadly no herbs or other natural remedies that can help.

Are there any herbs that prevent miscarriage?

That’s a tricky question since miscarriage can happen for a number of reasons and most of them won’t respond to herbal remedies.

However, if you’ve had repeated miscarriages and have been diagnosed with or suspect you have low progesterone levels, vitex (Vitex agnus-castus) may help normalize your hormones and increase the chances of carrying a baby to term.

Your midwife or OB/GYN can help you know if you have low progesterone. You can also chart your menstrual cycle and look for signs of low progesterone, like a short luteal phase. Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler is an excellent book that explains menstrual cycle charting.

Unless you have extensive experience with herbs, you’ll probably need to talk with an herbalist to see if vitex is right for you. An herbalist can also help you come up with a comprehensive plan for normalizing your hormone levels and increasing your chances of having a healthy, full-term pregnancy.

Even with multiple natural remedies for miscarriage recovery by your side, things may feel bumpy for a while. Grief is a winding road with many ups and downs and there’s no right way to travel it.

But you’ll get to the other side. With rest, time, and gentleness, your heart will heal. And with nourishing foods, healing herbs, and other natural remedies, your body will heal, too.

You’ll never forget the baby you lost, but you’ll find a way forward with that baby’s memory forever in your heart.

If you have experienced a miscarriage, what was the healing process like for you? If you’d like to share your baby’s name, or anything else about your baby, I’d be honored to hear it.

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    1. We lost a baby in June of 2019, who would’ve been our third. We considered naming, but settled on the fact that the Lord knows his or her name, and we’ll learn it when we see Him. I was barely pregnant before I miscarried, but my heart was very broken. I will forever love and miss that person who I will never meet this side of Heaven. We were blessed soon after with a boy born (at home – our first time) in June 2020, then yet another, born (also at home) in February this year – around the same time of what would’ve been the due date for our lost baby! I’m honored to have had more children, and yet what a strange thing to carry both great joy and great grief. I’m so sorry for your losses, Kristen.

    2. After 4 healthy pregnancies we decided to try for our last number 5. Everyone was so excited, couldn’t wait to see if we would have another girl or boy. Who they would look more like. We planned a nursery, my daughters had dreams of toys and blankets to pick out. My son snuggled my belly anxious for his turn to be a big brother. 7 weeks 5 days the bleeding started and drs said we have a threated miscarriage. Fast forward to 8 weeks 2 days and we are at hospital having a D &C. My world crashed and I can barely breath. I know I should be greatful for my 4 babies I can hold but the loss of a child I never got to meet is so overwhelming right now. Trying to be brave for my kids and husband and remind myself it’s not my fault but it’s so hard. Our angel Phoenix Raine 8/24/22 will forever be in our hearts.

      1. I’m so sorry, Sabrina. Thank you for sharing a little about your baby Phoenix Raine. Your baby will always be a part of your heart. I pray God helps your heart and body heal. It’s not an easy journey, but you are not alone. Sending a hug.

    3. Hi Kristen, I feel quite better knowing I’m not alone during these devastating periods of having a miscarriage. I’m Rachael. I too have suffered two miscarriages within four months. The last happened barely four days ago, 25th June,2022 and was eight weeks and some days old. The physical and emotional pain it brings is something you can’t easily let go.
      What hurts the most is when I was expecting the doctor to tell me there were twins or triplets in there, only for me to here what I was told the first time, “there is a threatened miscarriage, pregnancy intact but no heartbeat “ To be honest,I felt God was punishing me for something, but I know He is a forgiving father even if I’ve wronged Him in anyway. I felt the whole world was crushing down on me.
      Hmmmm, I immediately felt paralyzed. Was given two options to choose from, that’s a medical treatment or surgical. I opted for the surgical a second time because I never want to go through that painful contractions ago. That pain is so unbearable and unexplainable. But thanks for the support I had from my husband and family. I feel much better knowing the triplets will be on their way soon. God assured me. And thanks for your encouragement in this article. God bless you.

      1. That miscarriage blame and guilt can be so heavy, even when you rationally know it isn’t true. It sounds like you have a great support system that can help you grieve and process your losses. And I’m truly glad this article and the other experiences shared here can be part of your process. I’m wishing you the very best as your heart and body heal!

    4. My miscarriage is the toughest mental & physical pain I’ve gone through. It was my first positive pregnancy in 2+ years – an IVF baby girl. I thought that testing our embryo made me immune to a miscarriage. I am trying to heal before attempting another transfer..after years of watching women in my life have babies, I thought it was my turn. The grief has not only been tears but anger, as well. Trying to keep faith & hoping that time will help heal. this was a great article- sorry for your loss & thank you for sharing.

      1. I’m so sorry for your loss, too. Grief is different for everyone and can come in different forms at different times. I hope you can continue to find healing.

    5. I just lost my first baby. My husband and I are hurting now. I am still bleeding hoping it will stop soon. Turning to Christ, and praying for healing. I didn’t know about this type of pain. I feel like a bad mom, like I did something wrong even though I know there’s nothing I could have done. Thanks for your article.

      1. I’m so sorry, Jane. I understand that guilty feeling and it can be so crushing. You’re right. This isn’t your fault. And in time that will become real to you. May God comfort you and carry you during such devastating grief.

    6. Thank you for this information. My heart goes out to all the women who have experienced loss and shared it here.

      I had three early miscarriages prior to having my two beautiful children, who are now 8 & 10 years old. Unexpectedly I had another miscarriage this past week. It was an unexpected pregnancy, only 8 weeks along.

      Miscarriage feels quite lonely. Especially so early in pregnancy when many people don’t realize you’re pregnant. You’re mourning what could have been.

      Grief is so personal. I decided it would make me feel a little better if a few more people knew. Just to honor the spark of life that was there. No matter how briefly.
      💕

      1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Nicole. You are so right that miscarriage often feels like such a lonely grief, mourning what could have been and what was (and still is!) so real to you. I trust you find healing in God’s time.

    7. After marriage, My husband and I were waiting for a baby, after 5 years we got the good news I was pregnant but after 3 months I lost my baby this experience was very bad for me. Till I am depressed I cant be able to move on. can you suggest to me what should I do to forget this situation?

      1. Hi there. I don’t actually recommend trying to forget a miscarriage. Your baby was a part of you and always will be. If you’re struggling to process your grief, I recommend talking with a counselor, pastor, or support group who can help you, along with the things I laid out in this article. Best wishes for comfort and peace.

      2. I just had a miscarriage a week ago and I feel like my whole world is ended cause I had started to bond with my baby and now I feel empty and everyone around expects me to heal and be strong suddenly, I know they mean well but my heart is broken, he/she was my first.
        I’ve tried to reassure myself with God’s word and it only brings more tears.
        I’m grateful for the tips you shared but I don’t know if I can ever fully heal.

        1. I’m so very sorry, Zoey. A very dear friend of mine had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy right at the same time you did, so this topic is very fresh on my mind. It is normal and expected for you to feel broken and empty right now. You are a mom and your baby isn’t with you anymore. Your baby was real and will always matter to you. I know right now it feels like your heart may never heal, but it will. Your baby will always be a part of you, and you might cry for months or even years when you think of him or her. Grief should never be rushed, so it’s okay to give yourself time to cry. God will bring you through.

          If you haven’t yet, I’d love for you to read this post. It’s everything I’d say to you if I had the chance.

    8. Thank you for this post. I am in the middle of a miscarriage at 5 weeks. It’s my first pregnancy. I am so scared. Nothing really prepares you for the physical toll that it takes. There has been so much blood, I’m so tired. I just want it to end. I have been frustrated that there is such little information available about what it is actually like and what to do during/after. Because it happened so early, I haven’t had my first obgyn appointment and they’re only advice was to go the ER if the symptoms were bad. I feel very alone and unsure about what to do. Your article was very helpful and the comments were comforting to know others experiencing the same thing. I can only trust in God and not ask why.

      1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Mallory. The physical experience can be very heavy and there’s just no way to be prepared for it. I’m glad you found some comfort here.

        1. This is helping me your words are so soothing I’ve just lost my baby 12 weeks only yesterday it happened I’m missing something inside me that heaviness now I’m lighter I had contractions and my baby came out like a delivery felt the gush of water and then felt baby slipping out I don’t know where I went wrong I’m 41 so I dont know if my age has something to do with i am really sorry for all the women who has lost their babies

          1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Melissa. It’s devastating. I remember what it was like to blame myself and try to figure out what I did that caused my baby to stop growing and die. But the truth is, it’s nothing you could control. And that can be hard to accept. If you struggle with feelings of guilt, I want to share these words with you, too.

        2. I just had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and 6 days i can’t believe i just loss my baby , help me on what to do pls

          1. Hi Amelia. I’m so sorry your baby is no longer with you. Your heart must be completely shattered right now. Your baby will always be a part of you and you will always be his or her mom.

            Most of the guidance I share in this post will be helpful for you. I can’t weigh in on specifics for your situation since I don’t know your health history, but the things I’ve shared in this article will be beneficial for most women. If you can, please make sure you also read my words for the heartbroken woman walking through miscarriage. It’s everything I want you to know right now. Sending hugs and support.

      2. Hello Kristen, I’m Rachael and had two miscarriages within five months. The last one I had four days ago was 8 weeks and I feel so empty. Sometimes I feel better knowing that at least I could get pregnant by God’s grace when some women cannot at all. I believe God knows best and there are better times and moments ahead of us. Thanks for the amazing piece in the above article. It really encouraged me. Thanks and God bless you.

        1. Hi Rachel. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced these two losses so close together. I’m glad this article was helpful and can hopefully be a part of your healing process.

    9. I was expecting baby #3 and we were very happy. Sadly I miscarried at 17 weeks and had to be induced for labor. I gave birth to my son Elias on 10/30/20 and it was the most heartbreaking thing I had ever gone through. I had been looking for postpartum recovery information and hadn’t really found any for women who miscarry. It made me feel that having a miscarriage was as if nothing had happened. Thank you for your article and the great advice I really appreciate it and will be giving it a try. 🙏🏼

      1. Hi Angie. I’m so sorry you lost your precious baby Elias. You just experienced a very traumatic loss and it matters tremendously. I hope these things help you as you grieve and recover, both physically and emotionally. Elias was here and he matters.

        1. December 3,2020 when we found out that i am 7 weeks pregnant. It was the happiest days for me specially for my husband. Sadly i start bleeding from December 26.By January 4th doctor confirmed there is no heartbeat. It was the most devastating feeling ever. I gave birth to our first child January 18 of this year. Miscarriage is the most heartbreaking and the most painful experience I’ve ever experienced. I’ve never open up this experience to many because i am not brave enough to hear other people’s opinion about miscarriage. And then i found you.Thank you Kristen for your kind words and sharing your experience.You are giving me strength and hope.

          1. I’m terribly sorry for your loss, Grace. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. I’m glad this post could give you a little comfort. You are not alone. Many women have experienced this pain and know exactly what you’re feeling.

    10. I recently found that I was pregnant for the first time after my boyfriend and I decided to start trying. Yesterday at almost 7 weeks I experienced what I believe was a miscarriage. It was very intense and something I don’t think I will ever forget. Finding your website provided me with some solace. Fortunately, I do feel that I have a supportive network of individuals there for me including my boyfriend. For much of my adult life I have dealt with generalized anxiety and in miscarriage was always in the back of my mind even before I became pregnant. I feel sometimes that that is in part what made this occur. I know these things just happen and so I try not to beat myself up just learn from the experience and try again as so as I am healthy enough mentally and physically. I like your section on aroma therapy. It was something that I didn’t put in the forefront during the early part of finding out I was pregnant and it may have provided me with more ease for my anxiety. It’s definitely something that I will do while I’m healing and do when I become pregnant again. Thank you for sharing your experience and providing your wisdom and insight it was very helpful.

      1. Hi Amanda. I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m glad this could help you as you grieve and wish you lots of comfort and peace.

    11. Thank you for your gentle, validating words & natural remedy info. Last month I lost our baby at 9 1/2 wks preg.
      I was so disappointed that in 2020 with all our advancements that all the help my apathetic OB had to offer was to wait 2 cycles to try again and continue your pre-natal.
      I refuse to accept the there’s nothing you can do ” it’s just a chromosomal defect” & have been exploring holistic ways to make sure my body is right before we try again. This was very helpful, I have been already using the Vitex (Chasteberry) & red rasp. leaf & nettle teas. I also have appt. with a muscle tester that helped me in the past with some thyroid issues. Looking forward I’m leaning into God while sad, I’m still hopeful.

      1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Andrea. Unfortunately, the advice you received is all too common. I hope you find answers and guidance as you keep digging and wish you lots of comfort as you grieve.

    12. Thanks for sharing your experiences. This is my third miscarriage and experience does not make them easier. The first two followed a more conventional path, I started bleeding and I immediately knew something was wrong. However, the last one was a missed miscarriage, which means the baby stopped growing but my body did not realise and kept going with the pregnancy. I was feeling sure this time everything was ok but it was not like that when I had a scan, the doctor told me I would miscarry in the following 2/3 weeks. I wanted a natural miscarriage but waiting was not great when it finally happened it was like a birth, so many contractions and pain I don’t remember having had when I gave birth to my son. Nobody tells enough about the pain, the massive amount of blood you can lose, the size of the clots or the process in general. Once your body is done then it is your mind that still needs healing, so it does not really end there. Thanks

      1. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing a third loss, Cecilia. It sounds like this one was exceptionally difficult. I hope you are finding ways to rest, recover, and heal. It does take time. Sending hugs.

    13. This article was Highly soothing, comforting also very informative especially for myself dealing with this whole process alone! Moms really do Rock, due to the amount of strength it takes to heal an continue on for our other children if applicable.💙❤

      1. I’m currently Bed resting , My d&C was done today @ 9weeks along, Then with losing my mom only one 1/2 months prior my grievance have been almost unbearable😞..However my older children have been most helpful! Thank you so much for your article , just what i needed🙏❤

        1. I’m glad this was helpful. You’re going through two deeply devastating losses. Praying you are able to find healing over this coming year.

      2. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially by yourself, Tawanna. I hope you’re able to give yourself time and space to rest and recover as much as possible.

    14. I just lost my baby boy at 22 weeks yesterday. I’m deeply depressed ,I feel useless and empty .I had a strong bond with him,I only have one child and this is my third miscarriage. I feel like God is punishing me.this article made me feel better somehow. I thought I’m being crazy I can’t stop crying.but I believe as time passes by I will get over it. I’m hurt trully hurt.he came out alive and his little cry killed me.that little voice is killing me.I don’t know what to do to forget all this.

      1. Oh my, Berla. I’m so very sorry for such a devastating loss. You’re not being crazy for deeply grieving his loss. I’m glad this was able to help in a small way. Are you able to see a counselor, pastor, or grief doula to work through all you’re feeling?

        1. No I did not want to talk to anyone except my husband. but as time passes I’m healing slowly slowly .Thanks again

          1. That’s understandable. I’m glad you’re continuing to heal. It can be a long process, and that’s okay.

    15. I am so thankful to have found your post. My husband & I had been TTC for over a year. I became pregnant, and lost the baby at 6 weeks. We are leaning on Jesus & trying our best to recover. My body, however, seems to be having a hard time physically. I am tired, weak, & dizzy. I just started taking iron + chlorophyll (holistic dr. recommended) & will definitely start taking lemon balm + raspberry leaf tea!

      1. I’m so very sorry for your loss, Amy. My miscarriage was around that same time. 🙁 It really is a demanding physical process and your body needs so much grace and time to heal. Wishing you lots of rest, recovery, and comfort during a very hard time.

    16. We had our first doc appointment on March 21,2019. We were so excited to be expecting our 3rd child. At that appointment and the next one it was always very hard to find the heartbeat and had to have an ultrasound, in which they found the heartbeat every time. But on May 23, I went in for my appointment and they could not find the heartbeat again. I was feeling a little scared but hopeful at the same time. As the the doc was conducting the ultrasound, we did not find the heartbeat. It was the most gut wrenching experience of my life. I had to go to the hospital and deliver my baby. It’s a pain that no woman should experience. I was 17 weeks pregnant but the doc said that the baby appeared to be 14 weeks. The next day I went to church and thanked God for allowing me to experience pregnancy again and to have felt my baby move, even if it was for a short while. I asked Him for healing, strength and acceptance as to what has happened. I may never fully heal but my baby will be home soon and that gives me a sense of peace.

      -Veronica

      1. I’m so very sorry, Veronica. It’s so touching that you were able to thank God for the gift of your baby, though your pregnancy ended too soon. I’m praying for you now. Healing is a long process after such a deeply painful loss. Did you name your baby? If so, I’d love to hear his or her name.

        1. Thank you. His name is Joaquin Jule Garcia born on May 23,2019 at 8:45 pm. Thank you again. It helps being able to talk about him.

    17. We wasn’t even trying for a baby and then on my 28th birthday I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy so i went to the doctor they said the due date would be 12-12-19 of this year I thought oh another birthday in the month along with our middle sons birthday. I finally got to see the baby they said i was sixs but could not find a heart beat but said thats normal sense I was not that far along. So had to come back in a week to do another one. I was so happy to get to see the baby again hopeing for a heart beat. Sense for a week had to wait being scared for what they would say sense I felt fine. 5-13-19 went in hopeing for the best and the turn to be the worst. My Doctor came in handed me tissue and told me I had miscarried the baby heart didnt develop right. And there was no blood flow or groth. That was the worst feeling I have ever had she explain everything to me an ask if i want to know all my options and if i was ready to here everything. I told her to just tell me everything even why sitting there crying hoping for it to be all a bad dream it was not. The next day I had a d and c done I couldn’t do the other ways I don’t think i could of handled it. All I want to do is cry an be mad an brake things but can’t do all that in front of our three boys. Don’t want them to worry about me to much my husband has been great he talk to our older boys about what happened an i guess there ok but dont really talk about it. Everything is just so foggy right now i know will get better but I don’t want it to take long or wonder when will things be fine again.

      1. I’m so sorry, Tori. It’s such a crushing loss. Keep resting and give yourself time to grieve and heal. I’ll pray for you now. Thank you for sharing your hurt with us here.

    18. Thank yo so much for this post. My husband and I just found out last week that I am going to miscarry. It was around week 5 that our baby stopped growing. Just yesterday the bleeding started, small cramps and same today. We wanted this to happen naturally so I am thankful it is. I go back in next Tuesday for a check up. It is so very hard. We will never forget our first baby and I want to make sure my body is very well before we try again later this year.

      Thank you!

      1. Hi Kimberly. I’m so very sorry that you lost your baby. You have my deepest sympathies. I’m glad if this post can have a small part in your recovery process. I will pray for you and your husband right now.

    19. My husband and I had good luck with trying for our first pregnancy. It only took about two months and we were so anxiously excited. My body was starting to change and I could feel the pregnancy symptoms progressing from the queasiness to the expanding belly. At our 10 week appointment to hear the heartbeat, our hearts sank when the heartbeat could not be found. We were sent to have a viability scan the next day and ours hearts sank even further. The monitor showed no embryo or growth. I was in fact pregnant with an empty gestational sac and heard the words we never wanted or even thought of hearing. You’re pregnancy will end in a miscarriage soon. I had no warning signs or symptoms of miscarriage and I was living my life thinking I was carrying a growing life but that thought ended with one ultrasound. We had three choices; a natural miscarriage, to miscarry at home with the help of medicine or surgery. We opted for the medication as I couldn’t go along being pregnant knowing the heartbreaking outcome in weeks to come. We were in the comfort of our home and thankfully it was manageable with pain medication and the constant support of my husband. We are on the other side of it now. Waiting to try again as soon as we can. To everyone out there with my similar story, we are stronger than ever before and we will get through it one day at a time.

      1. I’m so sorry, Krystle. You went through something deeply devastating. Thank you for sharing your story with us here. If you haven’t yet, can I encourage you to read this post? It’s my heart for every woman walking through that pain. Sending love and compassion.

      1. I’m so sorry. I know your heart is shattered right now. I pray you find healing and comfort soon. Sending hugs.

    20. Thanks for the article. I recently had one miscarriage. It’s so traumatic. Thanks for your kind words..

      1. I’m so sorry, Tinni. It is traumatic in many ways. My heart is broken for you and I will pray for you now.

    21. I found out I was pregnant, Dec 18 2017..I started miscarrying the 22.I was 5 weeks.It has really been a tough journey these past three weeks.Very much on the emotional side.My condolences to all you ladies that have or goin thru this.Me myself did not know a mc was so tough..

      1. The grief can really take us by surprise, can’t it, Barbara? I’m sorry for your loss. It changes you and becomes a part of you, though the raw pain eases in time. Sending hugs.

    22. Miscarriage is a tough experience to have to endure. My first miscarriage was in 2012. A missed miscarriage. I learnt at 9 weeks my child had died the week before… it was ten weeks later , and an insesant feeling of being crazy, that I had a d and c. Everyone around me became pregnant. People who weren’t even sure they wanted it. I was angry and grievous. Two weeks later I ovulated, and my husband and I I decided to try. Just once . And it took. And I was afraid. 9 months later I had my first child. Then I had a second child , and became very anemic . A year later when I was healthy we tried again for a third. It took and I was excited as my sister in law was only two days behind me. At 10 weeks I felt , wrong, and made appointments to confirm my feelings. At 11 wells I was bleeding. At 12 weeks my suspicions were confirmed, via ultrasound. And I was given mitoprotistol. To force a natural evacuation. I am verily sure it nearly ended my life. I bled and bled and bled.. I expelled copious clots, the babe, and just kept going. Contractions almost never ceased. And pain killers wore off earlier than designed. I was no longer able to move my body, my fingers, I couldn’t rotate my head, and any time my husband carried me to the bathroom to change , I would nearly vomit and faint. I could hear a loud ‘sh’ noise… and I was rendered unconscious several times. The next day was not much better. I was able to sit up, but not for long at a time. Two days later my husband had to go back to work and I went to forcing myself to be normal for the sake of my kids and their needs. 6 weeks later I was still bleeding. And so ultra sounds and a d and c was scheduled . I was told it could tear my uterus because I had been so unwell for so long. I waited in hospital 11.5 hours before I was in. And was later told that there was a lot of of product left behind. That it was highly likely I’d lost twins. Two weeks later I am still bleeding… lol . Still anemic… still fainting and walking into walls and forgetting how to read or comprehend how to make coffee. I feel much anxiety over getting pregnant again, as I don’t feel I would survive it. Every experience is different, and I sincerely hope any woman who has to experience a miscarriage has a ‘simple’ and quick ending.

      1. I’m so sorry for your losses, and especially so considering the physical trauma you’ve gone through. Are you getting the rest and medical care you need? Your body has been through so much.

    23. Thank you for sharing this. Your heart came through in every word. I just suffered a miscarriage this week. I didn’t even know I was pregnant when it happened. I never imagined this. I’m 44 with two beautiful, healthy children (12 & 5). I’ve wanted more. I appreciate all you’ve shared and will implement this advice. Thank you and YHWH bless you.

      1. I’m so sorry for your loss, friend. Wishing you a peaceful recovery and a comforted heart. I hope you’re able to give yourself lots of time to heal.

    24. I don’t even know how to begin.. My days would be a lot tougher if I didn’t find so many stories. Thank you to all of the ladies that share their stories. Miscarriage is not talked about enough. No wonder so many women question and blame themselves for something they couldn’t control. 95% of the time, all I ever hear about is full term healthy babies. In the 28 years of my life, I always knew I wanted to be a Mom. To me, that is most precious gift. What little girl doesn’t carry around a toy doll pretending that it’s her baby? I sure did. When I turned 18, I was struck with the news that I was infertile and that’s when my animals became my children. I almost became comfortable with not being able to conceive because I knew after being told I was infertile, it would take a giant miracle in order for me to become a mom. Just after turning 23, in June of 2014, I married the apple of my eye. In May of 2017, My Apple and I bought our first home together and my best friend got pregnant! ( she gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby girl, Z). Life’s pieces all started forming together! The first day of my last period started on my 28th birthday on Nov. 3. Well Nov. 24 finally hits and I still have no period. I just thought maybe I was stressed and my period was late. By December 1st, I still didn’t have a period and was almost concerned. I was told 10 years earlier I was infertile so pregnancy was the last stop my thought train hit. December 11th hit and still NO period so I said “are you feeling lucky?” And took the plunge to the store and got myself some pee sticks. I’m pregnant!!🎉🍼💕 . I was filled with emotions, shock, joyful, tears of utter happiness. I just couldn’t believe it!! I had to pee on 5 sticks to believe it! So I called up my doctor, told her what the at home kit said and she got me in. She took my HCG and hot dog I was sure as heck pregnant!!! Oh my gosh, I couldn’t control how excited I was!! I took all the pregnancy sticks, put them in a gift wrap box and gave them to my husband as his early Christmas gift. December 11th was truly one of the happiest days of my life. Being told you’ll never create your own little version of life for so long, and then here came that miracle. I was definitely feeling pregnant by the time I took the tests and things were definitely changing. Oh boy.. 1 week to the day (December 18th, 2017) of my husband and I finding out how lucky we have finally become, all that luck was taken from us. Someone, somewhere decided our little creation would make a better angel instead. Our little baby became a complete miscarriage just 10 days ago.

      It’s as if someone has ripped my heart out and stomped all over it right in front of me.

      Thank you for listening.

      1. Oh Chelsie, I don’t even have the words to say but to tell you that I’m so deeply sorry to hear about your miscarriage after so many years of infertility. There are no magic words of comfort, though I would have loved them when we lost a baby to miscarriage and I wish I could share some with you now. Thank you for sharing your joy and your deep hurt.

        In case you haven’t found them yet, I have some other posts on miscarriage that might help you as you grieve. They’re all linked here. I want to share this one with you in particular: To the Heartbroken Woman Walking Through Miscarriage.

        It’s not an easy road, but your little baby will always be a part of you. You’ll never forget. You’ll cry years down the road, missing someone you never met. But that’s because you’re a mother, and mothers never stop loving their babies, even the ones they never got to hold. You’re in my prayers.

    25. I’ve been searching for days for advice on healing my body after my loss but have come up empty. Either posts that lead to buying there magic treatment or things about mental health, but nothing body specific so thank you for this post.

      1. I’m so sorry about your loss, Ashley. How long has it been since you lost your baby? Also, have you read this post on my site yet? It might be something that gives comfort.

    26. Thank you for this. As a new bride of 7 weeks the Lord took our baby of 2-3 weeks home to be with Him last week. As my husband and I prayed for the blessing of children even before we were married, it was hard to accept the Lord’s will, but He is good. We named the baby Trust because that is what our Father is teaching us- to Trust Him more. Looking forward to holding our precious baby in heaven some day and praying for the Lord’s grace to send us his siblings when the time is right.

      1. That’s a very fitting name for your sweet baby. May God continue to heal your hearts, and I’m so sorry for your loss.

    27. Thank you for writing. In particular it is helping me so much to think of my miscarriage as a birth. No one explained that to me I have also experienced a missed miscarriage. This is a lonely time and I’m finding it difficult to love and care for my body despite knowing that’s what it needs. I am also the first of my friends to experience a miscarriage which adds to the loneliness. I was 11 weeks but only 6 weeks when our little one passed. I was really obsessed with the idea that the baby was not alive from the start. Perhaps I just knew? But nothing really prepared me for how I felt. This being my first pregnancy I feel terrified that it will happen again and I will keep losing babies.

      1. Hi Sophie,

        I’m so very sorry that you’ve suffered this hard loss. It’s really not something a woman can understand until she walks through it. The hurt is so deep.

        Every woman’s situation is unique, and some have sadly had to suffer through repeat losses. For me, we’ve only had one, and were able to conceive shortly after. I share that so you know that it is entirely possible to have uncomplicated pregnancies after a miscarriage. But if you are struggling with any concerns, maybe a visit with a caring health provide would set your mind at ease.

        If you haven’t found them yet, I wrote this post and this one recently, and I think they might be of comfort to you.

        Hugs, friend.

    28. I lost my little girl on February 2nd 2012. it was the most painful experience I have ever been through. it was very painful physically and emotionally. I had to go through so much pain it was unbearable. I got to the hospital and bled horribly, and ended up having to push my sweet girl out, she was already gone. I have never had my heart break so much. I feel for every woman having to experience this lose. It hurts and will hurt forever. Just take care of yourself and love eachother.

      1. Oh Jamie, your story is so heartbreaking. I’m sorry that you lost your baby girl and on top of that, had to go through so much physical pain and trauma. I would imagine that it is a very clear and painful memory for you.

        Did you name your daughter? I would love to hear her name, if you did.

        Much love and many hugs to you, Jamie. Thank you for sharing your story.

    29. Before I was blessed with 3 wonderful children I had 2 miscarriages. One at 7 weeks and one at 10. Being that I had no children yet it was easy for me to rest. At the time I couldn’t understand why this had happened to me, I started to question if it was my fault and felt defeated not being able to do what my body was made to do. I was totally at His mercy knowing full well that only He opens and closes the womb… but the Lord has been gracious and as all things He has used it for good. He has healed my heart…not that their aren’t still tears sometimes when I think of what my life would be like had I been able to carry my babies. Because I have had miscarriages I have been able to be an encouragement and comfort to others that are suffering a loss of a little one. My miscarriages both ended at home and went very well. I was very weak for a while but I had no complications. I had a wonderful midwife who kept coming out to check on me and really reached out to me above and beyond what she had to. She brought me books on healing emotionally and helped me balance my hormones naturally. She is now one of my best friends and has blessed my life abundantly. God took a very hard time in my life and blessed me with sympathy for others who have suffered a miscarriage and a wonderful friend.

      1. I’m so sorry to hear about your two losses, Abby. I really relate to your experience, though, and what you said about being able to now really feel for other women who deal with the loss of a pregnancy.

        The Lord is still good through such a sad time!

    30. The weirdest, most haunting experience for me was leaking milk every time I heard an infant cry in public. That took a good 6-8 weeks to stop afterwards…

      1. Teoett, I’m so sorry that you had to deal with that on top of the pain of a miscarriage. I have heard of other women having that experience, but I didn’t know it could last that long. Was this a recent loss?

    31. thank you for writing this. my first pregnancy just ended in a missed miscarriage. the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, i found out at 12 weeks when i went for an ultrasound. i chose to take misoprostol to induce the contractions since i wasn’t sure how much longer it would take for my body to realize what had happened. ive been trying to get back to the same lifestyle and find myself so tired and achy. my mother has no experience with miscarriage but instictily she seems to understand, that although very early, i gave birth and my body needs rest just as it would if i had gone to term. thank you for putting this information out there. women who have experienced miscarriage need to know this.

      1. Hi Elizabeth,

        I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, and thank you for the kind words about this post. I pray that your body and heart continue to heal. Keep resting and give yourself all the time you need to get back to a new normal. Your baby will always have a special place in your heart.

    32. A very timely post. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I have not known quite how to respond to and share my story, but this seems like a safe place right now. Today is the celebration or feast day of St Francis of Assisi. Our second child was born on Monday and we named them Francis Shalom, but it was not the birth we had hoped for and anticipated. I was so pleased I could give birth at home and we were able to bury the beautiful and tiny body in our garden and also plant a native flowering shrub. It wasn’t until our 12 week scan that we discovered the loss of our little one, whose little heart seems to have stopped beating at 10 weeks. We had told many close family and friends about our joyful expectancy, and so we are pleased to have journey with them through the loss as well. It is amazing how much a small life can impact us. We truly have felt the peace of Christ through it all and have been upheld by a community who has prayed and been with us.

      I think your point about needing the recovery you would have after any other birth is a great one. Thank you for permission to take it easy! And I drank raspberry leaf in the lead up, so it is good to know I should continue to do so. Grace and Peace.

      1. It’s been nearly 2 years since our loss, our child, who we think was a boy, was born on the feast of St. Francis Xavier, so that is what we named him. I talk to Francis at Mass every day, after Communion. Even though it’s been nearly 2 years (12-3-11, to be exact), it feels like yesterday. The wound is still raw. It’s still my baby that is gone.

        1. Thank you for taking the time to share, Tammy. It is very much okay to still have a hurting heart after two years. Every woman is different. I hope that you might be able to read the follow-up to this post called Healing Your Heart After Miscarriage.

          I pray your heart can continue to heal and find comfort in Christ.

      2. Oh, Sharolyn, do I understand correctly that you just lost your little one? I am so very sorry. Do rest and let your body heal.

        Thank you for opening up and sharing about your loss and the healing that is taking place. I didn’t get to see any form of a baby because mine happened so early, but it is so touching to me that you were able to, and then be able to have a burial place as well. I’m also so glad to hear of the support you have during this difficult time. It can make such a difference!

        Sending you prayers and Christian love.

        1. Yes, sorry Kristen, I may have written that a little cryptically, but we did lose our little one a few weeks ago, though I had what was called a ‘missed miscarriage’ and only ‘gave birth’ this week. We had waited with the doctors approval to see if my body would naturally begin labor. As it did not, I was given some medication which induced labor and a few hours later, this past Monday, our little one was born. Friends warned us against this process (suggesting the surgical operation might be easier to deal with), but I really felt like the physicality of giving birth and being able to bury the tiny beautiful body was important for me, and it was indeed a (painful) blessing for me and helpful in anchoring our grief. As my last little boy was born at home, it also felt consistent with our philosophy about the whole process. I understand everybody’s situation is different though, and what seemed to work well for us will not be the case for everybody.

          I definitely feel like this experience, though never something I would have asked for, is teaching us a lot, stretching our faith, helping us to see our loving God- who is with us through this all- in a new way, and making us more able to reach out to others. May the Lord bless you Kristen, as you bless others through this space.

          1. Sharolyn, your words and story are so heartbreaking and yet so touching at the same time. I very much relate to seeing the Lord in a deeper way through the pain of miscarriage as that was so true for me, too.

            I just can’t thank you enough for sharing all of this, especially experiencing it so recently. Your words show a heart of strength and faith in the middle of a painful trial, and I truly believe they will be an inspiration to others down the road. I just pray that the Lord will continue to be your rock through it all!

            Thank you again. I truly feel blessed by your comments.

    33. I experienced a loss in October of 2006 at 11 weeks. As far as the physical healing process, I experienced some weight gain (hormones? sadness?) and some hormonal skin issues. I was surprised too at how much physical stuff I went through. Thanks for mentioning good nutrition and rest, I don’t think I thought about it then.
      One of the things that helped me so much emotionally was being able to talk with others who had experienced it before me. We all have different levels of needing to “process out loud” but to hear that the emotions and thoughts I was experiencing were normal was so helpful. I felt so raw and vulnerable and sad and needed to hear that all of those things were appropriate and okay. I hope to continue to offer that to others and blog posts like this are so helpful.
      Thank you for reminding me that it is a birth with a different outcome. In the future I will remember to offer meals and help to those who are walking through the aftermath.
      Thank you for your post and the ability for me to share my somewhat scattered thoughts.
      One more thing, a dear friend sent me this verse: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” I Corinthians 1:3&4
      It has helped me heal to be able to offer comfort and compassion and empathy to others, and I am thankful for that!
      Cary

      1. Hi Cary!
        I’m so glad that you took the time to share your story. Another good friend of mine dealt with some terrible skin issues for about a year after a miscarriage, too. It really can make our hormones get imbalanced.
        Thank you also for sharing the Scripture that encouraged you! I agree completely. It’s very healing to help comfort someone else who has experienced the loss. That’s one of the reasons I like to devote a post or two to miscarriage at this time of the year.
        Thank you again for reading and sharing.

    34. Another great things to consider is fermented veggies/ water kefir or milk kefir. Bone broth is amazing and restoring. The book Deep Nutrition is so informative and has some great health tips for anyone trying to conceive or heal after pregnancy or miscarriage.

      1. Thank you for sharing those suggestions, Karin! I always put our milk kefir in smoothies.

        I’m not familiar with that book, so I will have to look it up. I’m glad you mentioned it.

    35. Thank you for posting this. I’m so glad Bethany (from Fit To Be Us) shared this link!

      I’d like to tell you I had a miscarriage as well. While I want to talk about the birth & loss of that baby (we named her Night Raven Wreath), I’ve found that people would rather sweep it under the rug or not talk about it at all. Like Tammy, mine was on her 7th week – right in the middle of it, from the looks of her body when I held her. I lost Night on Jan 5th of this year (2013, for future readers). Since her birth was the most supported of my 3 births, that feeling has successfully helped me grieve. I’m as over it as I’ll ever get – not that we’re ever really over it.

      My miscarriage didn’t end at home…I had part of the placenta stuck inside me, so passed out from blood loss. The ER doc took it out, I was given an IV, and then was medically fine. I didn’t return to work for awhile afterword – I don’t remember how long, since I went strictly by how I was feeling, but it was within weeks.

      I sometimes wish there was a place to talk about Night freely – without everyone suddenly thinking they have to tip-toe around or not mention her death. Yes, I named her (him?) and want to talk about her, even though she had a very short life. Granted, I can’t say anything I haven’t already said, but it would help me more to talk rather than pretend she doesn’t exist.

      Wish I’d known all of this, though. Perhaps my physical recovery would have been a bit easier. Thanks again!

      1. I’m very sorry that you suffered this loss so recently, Michelle, but very glad that you took the time to share your story here. Your experience of needing to a see a doctor is an excellent example of how we need to watch for warning signs.

        I also think that naming and talking about our lost babies like real people (because they are!) is a tremendous part of the healing process. It seems that unless someone has been touched by the loss of miscarriage, it’s hard to understand and know how to respond when a woman wants to talk about the lost child. In fact, I named the first post I wrote on miscarriage An Invisible Loss, because I realized that something so painful and real to me was invisible to almost everyone else. The second part of this post will be up on Friday, and I’ll talk about some of the ways to heal emotionally. Naming the baby and talking about the baby are a big part of it.

        I’m sorry again for your loss, but thankful that you were able to share something here that might help someone in the future. Blessings.

    36. Thanks for posting about this, Kristen! I’m sorry for your loss, but I know that the Lord will use this wisdom on your blog to help others!

      1. I appreciate your kind words, Jessica! Your post on The Humbled Homemaker was full of comforting advice, too.

    37. Thank you for this post. It’s been long enough that I have healed physically, but not emotionally, after the loss of my child. I never knew how hard it would be. I was only 7 weeks, and it felt like, as you said, physically, that I had given birth. I was so grateful for the help I got from family, and was able to rest. I know that I needed to up my intake of fluids, iron, and protein from the massive blood loss. Thanks again, I wish I had had some of this information when it happened.

      1. My heart is sad with you, Tammy. How long has it been since your loss? I pray that God can be an ever-present help in your time of need.
        I hope the post coming up next will be a help to you, as well. The healing of the heart takes much longer than the body, I think.